Why I’m loving my twenties
It occurred to me today while I was having a wee, that I am bloody loving my twenties. And don’t get me wrong, it’s had a fair few downs as well as its ups. But I feel pretty confident saying that so far, my twenties have been good. This is definitely swayed by the fact that 2017 has been very, very kind to me so far after a pretty awful 2016 (did anyone have a good year that year?) Even so and even with 3.5 years left until the big 3-0, I feel like my twenties have been the most eye opening, freeing and fun years.
1. Self acceptance
I guess I had the usual teenage angst of never being happy with how I looked despite having the cool combover fringe and blue mascara (the kids of today are missing out!) I also had no idea what to do with my life, what I enjoyed, what I was good at and to be honest with you, I didn’t have much belief that I could stand on my own two feet or find my place in the world.
These days, I feel like I’ve got to that point in life where I’ve accepted who I am and I’m okay with it. I know I’m stubborn, impatient and hangry (about 90% of the time). I know I’m not good at everything. My skin breaks out at the first sign of sugar. I’m crap at liquid eyeliner. Sometimes I live off dry shampoo for a week because I’m too lazy to wash my hair. And on occasions, I answer the door to the takeaway man with my sweatpants tucked in to my knee length stripy socks. (Is that self acceptance or just letting yourself go? 😂 )
2. Figuring out what you want
I’ve found a job and career that I love, Nathan and I bought our own little house and I know what I want my future to hold. I know what I’m good at, but equally I know what I’m hopeless at (anything maths related, by the way. I’m shocking, thank God for calculators and Excel autosum). I’m learning Spanish because I found a love for languages, I have a fitness routine because I live for that energy boost and I finally have a skincare routine (I know right, I now cleanse AND tone – does that make me a proper adult?) I’ve been reading more books, spending more time outside and visiting new places. Your twenties gives you that chance to suss out what it is you want from life. I think when you’re in education they only really prepare you/encourage you to think about your career and not you as a person, or life as a whole.
My parents were always pretty good with promoting the importance of independence and freedom. My brother seemed to soak it up but I don’t think I ever truly grasped independence until I moved away. It was hard and I miss them every day but I know how it feels to be self-sufficient, and I feel like I have control over my time and how I spend it. I know I can rely on myself, I know I can function on my own and I’m finally okay with my own company (if Netflix is involved). That said, Nathan does sometimes makes my packed lunch BUT that’s not the point.
4. Doing you
I’ve heard so many people say your twenties are your selfish years and I kind of agree. Selfish doesn’t necessarily have a negative connotation here, I think it means you literally get time to focus on you and what you want from life. You get your independence, you get to follow your own path, explore your interests, do whatever you want with your free time, blow your bank balance on food (totally not me, speaking for a friend…) and spend your time with whoever you want. You figure out who and what truly matters to you.
Other positives of my mid-twenties (oh…actually I suppose I’m mid-to-late-twenties now!) include:
- Not directly related but it seems kids’ feet are getting bigger which means my size 5.5’s can now fit in the kids range which means cheaper shoes and no VAT! Can I get a HELL YEAH!
- Painting my nails indoors (did anyone else’s parents make them sit outside? Even in winter…?)
- Having a bit of money to spend. I know, I know, most of it goes on bills and rent/mortgage and food. But you probably have more than teenage you, you learn to save and at some point you get to treat yourself whether it’s to a new jumper, (some more food) or a trip somewhere.
- Having choices. Not to say we didn’t before but speaking from my experience, most of the time, you’re not stuck. If something is making you unhappy, you have the power to change it and you are in charge of your life.
- Watching whatever I want on the TV. Mama, Papa – if you’re reading this, I do love you guys but I do not miss watching every single war related drama/film and Silent Witness (it still gives me the heebies).
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s hard work, sometimes you have down days and life needs some balancing, but as they say, no rain = no flowers. How’re you feeling about your twenties/can you relate to any of this, or am I just rambling as usual?! Hope you’re having a fab week!